Special needs parenting

“The Last Time”

I've seen that 'the last time' video floating around (If you haven't seen it, watch it here ) and it's made me think about the last time I thought it was going to be ok. For me, it's not like a breakthrough lightning strike moment. It's the little things. The moment I realized that Ella would never… Continue reading “The Last Time”

Diagnosis, Parenting, Special needs parenting

Down the Rabbit Hole We Go

With Ella's behaviour spiralling out of control and her self harming becoming worse, after talking to her paediatrician, we have decided to try medications to help her. here's what I've learnt so far.  People are judgemental turds

Ella, Special needs parenting

Keeping it Real

I don't have time for a breakdown right now, But I can feel it creeping up. We've had a rough couple of weeks, Ella's behaviour has been horrible.  Full meltdowns at seemingly at everything for seemingly no reason. Toilet time? Meltdown Dinner?  Meltdown Time to get dressed? Meltdown Breakfast? Meltdown It gets worse - She… Continue reading Keeping it Real

Special needs parenting

For the parent of a newly diagnosed child

So your child has just received a diagnosis.. Welcome to the club that no one wants to be part of, but I can promise you, That this club, with all its ups and downs, is full of amazing, inspirational and strong people. 

Special needs parenting

What I’ve learned from my special needs child.

Having a special needs child has been a journey unlike anything I could have imagined, there's Been the lowest of lows, but also the highest of highs.  Ultimately Ella has taught me so much, and having the honour of being her mum has been so rewarding.  Here's what she's taught me.

Special needs parenting

Defeat

4 years since I bought Ella her first toilet seat.  3 years since we started actively toilet training. 1 year since We really dug our heels in, and along with the school went 'nappy free' almost full time.  And Today, I feel defeated. I feel like giving up, I'm wallowing in misery, and you know what?  I'm allowed, I'm not sorry and I don't give a flying ...

Special needs parenting

School holidays

School holidays can definitely be a challenge for us.  As I'm sure is the case with most families, boredom is the enemy, and we fight it all holidays! So comment below/message/inbox/email, your school holiday activity ideas! (Bonus points if they need minimal equipment or input from me 😂)  let's share all your holiday parenting hacks!!

Special needs parenting

Stop and Smell the Gum Leaves

This morning, we were all up early (thanks Reece) and ready so I figured, fuck it, we'll head off half an hour before we usually do, it's the last day of school. We weren't even past our property line, that it hit me She can walk!

Special needs parenting

Waves, grief and the future

It hit me like a freight train. It was just like any other day, nothing new or exciting, a tiny little things just just set it off. It seems the grief is never ending, it just coming in waves.

Ella, Special needs parenting

Almost

We almost made it. 2 weeks of school holidays, a week and a half in and it's been great! Joel has been working long hours, and looking after the 2 kids has been hard on my own. I can't leave them alone together because Ella is rough with Reece still, so trips to the toilet have been a family occasion, and showering is out of the question until Joel gets home because Ella freaks out when I shower, and there's been a few moments but all in all its been good! We've had beautiful weather, Ella has loved playing outside.  I Even put together a playpen for Reece so I could weed the garden and hang out washing without worrying about Reece chasing the dog. Ella didn't complain about me putting sunscreen on her (which can sometimes be a challenge), or meltdown when it was time to come in. We went and fed the ducks near our house a couple of times, and even though Ella was scared of them, she took it like a champ and kept going back which is huge for her to overcome a fear like that! A few appointments as always but they went off without a hitch. I had a lovely visit from my grandma, who I don't get to see nearly often enough, and Ella was on her best behaviour. We had A couple of visits from the neighbour and her young son played with Ella, which went so well, Ella was so happy afterwards. And then today happened. Today it all came crashing down. We almost made it 2 weeks and I expected it, and I'm sure parents of 'typical' children have these days but I can't help but feel so disappointed. I'm worn out, deflated and just done. It was raining today, so I thought I'd let Ella run around in the rain, it was warm enough and I have let her before and she's always loved the experience! But Not today Complete and utter meltdown after less than 5 minutes because her clothes got wet, (I think) then she wouldn't get changed and the day went downhill from there. She bit herself so hard it left a huge welts on her arm. I had to keep her and Reece completely seperate all day because she just kept lashing out at him, trying to pinch, push, grab, hit. She's been violent and lashed out towards me, Ive been slapped, pinched, my hair ripped out while trying to calm her, or stop her from hurting herself. She's refused pretty much all food, all day. I've watched my usually well natured girl throw things, bang her head on things, self harm, throw herself on the ground and just be violent and destructive - All Fucking Day And that's it. No well written, long-winded thought out post.  Just this. Word vomit, written on my phone while sitting on the toilet with the shower running.  This is my life. Hopefully tomorrow is a better day, we're off to Wangaratta to meet a new physio. Now Ellas finally calmed down for a while with her iPad before bed, and I'm off to cry in the shower and wonder what the hell I could have done differently today. Ugh.  We almost bloody made it.