Special needs parenting

The photo that broke me

Since before he was born, I knew Reece was going to 'overtake' Ella at some point. I did kind of think it would happen all at once, but to be honest it wasn't like that at all. No lightbulb moment, just gradual things.

Special needs parenting

Ella’s Appendicostomy, and how it’s changed our lives

I had a zoom meeting with this surgeon, and if I could see her today, I would probably hug her! without much fuss at all, she has single handedly fixed so many of Ella's issues after 9 years of complaining.

Ella, Special needs parenting

Fear

My sweet girl, you are growing in front of my eyes.and I'm scared. I'm so bloody scared.I'm not scared of the things that most parents worry about, I'm not scared of first dates or moving out.I'm not worried about whether you'll make good choices or get a good job.I'm not afraid of if you'll get… Continue reading Fear

Ella, Special needs parenting

The Ugly Truth

I felt for her, I felt every word she said I felt it.  The crushing loneliness, the feeling that no one understood, hiding bruises and bite marks from the latest meltdown.  The isolation, not being able to go the the park and just sit and watch like other mothers do.  Tiny things building up and getting on her nerves - like still brushing the teeth of an 14 year old, and most of all the fear of the future.  Who is going to look after my child when she's gone.  Who is going to understand how to handle these outbursts.  In the end she did the unspeakable - the unthinkable.  I put the book down and cried my eyes out.  What an utterly horrible and heart-breaking story to read.  

Special needs parenting

To the Snide Woman in the Supermarket Isle

When you made that comment to your friend as you walked passed. "Someone needs some disclipine" I looked up and only saw your back. "SHE'S GOT SENSORY ISSUES" I wanted to shout. But didn't. I had bigger things to worry about.

Special needs parenting

The days are long, but the years are longer

I think about the phrase the day's are long, but the years a short, and while I most certainly agree, it feels like the last 9 years have flown by! But when I really think about it... well...

Ella, Special needs parenting

All I Want for Christmas is My Two Front Teeth!

It was my birthday, 12/12 - BIG 35!  I told joel I want a special birthday this year, a full day to myself to relax, drink wine, bake, have a bath, watch movies.  I was going to jam pack that day with ME TIME!

10am - I was baking scones when the phone rang.  Ella's school number popped up on the screen.  I hate to admit it but inwardly I groaned... I had a full day planned!!
"Ella's had a fall and chipped a tooth"
I told Joel I'd be back in an hour (Ella's school is 40ks away, about half hours drive)  gave Reece a wave and off I went on what would turn out to be one of the worst days ever.

Special needs parenting

What do you see?

What do you see in this picture?I'll tell you what I see. I see a child that's absolutely frigging proud that she'd dressed herself, so proud infact she wanted a photo after I made such a big deal if it. Usually she waits for me, and I help. I point out where the front and… Continue reading What do you see?

Special needs parenting

New Year

Firstly - welcome to all our new friends, I'm blown away by the response I received in the last few days! Much love to everyone supporting us! 💚 Secondly - What a year!! 🥳This has probably been the most challenging year for me and my mental health, We've had so many highs and lows, but… Continue reading New Year

Diagnosis, Ella, Special needs parenting

Room

But there I was in that room, at 3:30am, instead of sleeping I sat next to Ella in that very same spot and marveled.
I marveled at the room I was in, the same walls I stared at blankly for hours on end while my mind raced just 8 years ago.
and I thought about when I was here last. And who I was then.
The girl that doesn't exist